“Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.”
Words have power. Until you make this agreement, you will continue to waste your energy being hooked by false beliefs about yourself (or others beliefs about you). Proverbs 18:21 says “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” This is why, Ruiz explains, “the First Agreement is the most important of all of the agreements.” If we are to break any of the other agreements we previously made with ourselves which cause suffering, then we must “Be Impeccable With Our Words.”
What exactly does impeccable mean? It means “not to sin.”
Despite what most religions would like you to believe about sin, sin is an act committed against yourself. Sin promotes hatred in your heart, rather than love. For many years, however, the church has used “sin” to maintain control over their congregation. The word sin is used as a moral judgement towards ourselves and others. Rather than thinking of it in this moral context, Ruiz suggests that “being impeccable” is simply common sense.
In Part 5, he redefines sin as “anything we do that goes against ourselves.” This includes thoughts, words, feelings, beliefs that hold judgment, blame, anger, envy, jealousy, hate – anything we think, say or do that causes us to reject ourselves. His point? When we live with these agreements about ourselves, then we tend to believe these things about others….we promote death of our souls, rather than life….anger begets anger, love begets love.
Nor is this exclusively a Christian belief, this is also the law of Karma. Karma equates to action. If we think we are stupid, or ugly, or undeserving of love, then this is the agreement we make and a belief we hold about ourselves. We then act upon these agreements….we create actions in our lives that reinforce these beliefs by making mistakes so that we can tell ourselves again how stupid we are. We choose partners who tell us we are ugly or treat us badly because we do not think we deserve better, for this is what we have told ourselves for many years.
“Be cautious of those who mis-use their words”, Ruiz says. For they are mostly unaware of the power that words have. Rather than speak the truth, we all lie (sin) out of habit because that is how we were taught. Be cautious that you do not misuse your words. At the end of the day, being impeccable with your word is an act that promotes love, which, in turn, promotes life. This gives you energy, rather than takes it away. It is easier to speak the truth, to speak about love, than it is to lie and be hateful. When you are hateful towards someone else, not only do you say things that hurt them, but it also causes you to suffer.
Ask yourself: do you really feel any better when you harbor anger towards another person?
I am not much of a believer in the Bible, but I do believe that Jesus was an reincarnation of the Buddha. According to the book of Matthew in 12:34-35, Jesus says, “words we speak are actually the overflow of our hearts”. Buddha taught, “Words have the power to both destroy and heal. When words are both true and kind, they can change our world.”
Our words are powerful. They are the energy that fuels our actions. If you only have so much energy to give, wouldn’t it be better spent on promoting life?
Be Impeccable…but don’t be a martyr….